Series of Resting and Setting Free
The Life of Returning to Nil (Three)
綜觀我們，平常都都把念動在義氣用事上，氣一動火就來，而不能耐心的去撫平，就是不會放，也不會收，一動火就起來，然後就一發不可收拾，而圖增了許多憾事；因此不管兒女也好，夫妻也好，事業也好，都要學著這個放下與歇下，用這個心來處理事才叫做和。所以「中也者，天下之大本也，和也者，天下之達道也。」通達的路，我們心裡頭有和氣，有和平，做什麼事都跟誰是通達的；如果心裡頭一直責備，一直責備的話，就會造成一種反彈，跟打壓，都不是好的現象。
Take ourselves for an example. We get used to placing our mind on chi. Whenever there is chi、we fail to calm ourselves down. We are unable to control ourselves at that point、which causes something unfortunate. So we have to learn how to let things go and rest to deal with our children、our lover、and our business. With letting go and resting、things will go harmoniously. When we are in the state of harmony、whatever we do and whomever we are with will become harmony、too. As Doctrine of the Mean states、「The universe has its orbit to follow and people have their true natures to follow. When the universe follows its orbit and when people follow their true natures、the world will become harmonious.」 Since we are in the state of harmony、we are able to get along with everybody. On the contrary、if we blame others all the time、it will absolutely result in bad conditions.
現在的社會，是要我們學著循循善誘，儘量不要用指責的。我們的父母對孩子都習慣了用指責的；學校老師對學生也大都用指責的；軍隊裡的軍官官長，對下屬更是用指責的。這個時代已經不同了。愈指責恐怕愈會反彈，就感覺到沒有朝氣，感覺到灰心。所以指責這東西真的都好。
Nowadays we are asked to teach with patience and skill rather than blame. However、parents are used to blaming their children; teachers are used to blaming their students; the officers are used to blaming the subordinates. The times have changed. Blaming is not good at all.
因此，我們要把指責這個東西轉化成慈悲，轉化為愛心。用愛心就不能用指責的，愛心是用體諒、體貼的，就是要使每一個人會感受到溫馨和諧的，感受到是一種愛護，這才是重要的。用指責、打壓的不是究竟，反而容易造成互相排斥，而無法互相和睦，互相的一心一德。
Therefore we need to have compassion on others、not blaming. Loving heart、being understanding and thoughtful、helps people feel sweet and harmonious. Blame and suppression cannot be the way. They easily cause opposition instead of harmony.
所以當父母的要改，儘量不要用指責的；當老師的要改，對學生不要用指責；當長官的也要改，對部下不要用指責的，要學著用開導的，使他有路好去走，使他有信心往前做，對他肯定的使他有信心的往前去走。
Parents should learn not to blame their children; teachers should learn not to blame their students; supervisors should learn not to blame their subordinates. It will be a better way to give others advice and to help others build up their confidence. Then they will have faith in themselves to move on.
「謾罵」確實不是一個好的辦法，尤其夫妻之間只要一指責，就沒有愛，就沒有了溫馨；因為指責的原因，都是再找有理沒有理。修道」不是找有理沒有理，而是使每一個人能覺悟。覺悟了念頭就轉過來，沒有覺悟那念頭就轉不過來，所以我們要用啟發的，用感化的，用體諒的來使眾生在裡邊覺悟，最好的辦法就是用這個「中」。
「Blame」 is definitely not a good way. Love and sweetness cannot be found when there is blame between husband and wife. Cultivating Tao is to help everyone find his/her true nature. And the best way to help others find their true nature is to follow our true natures first.
只要沒有事，就常常保持這個一切情緒沒有發作以前的平和，如如不動的，這就是「中」。遇到事情了這個「中」就會去做中的用，那就是「和」。天地有中和，所以才能「天地位焉，萬物育焉」的長養萬物；家庭有中和，家庭、父子就會非和諧，家庭就會互相的成長跟互相的喜悅，才是祥和的世界。
We should always have our true nature with us. The true nature is in the state of peace and harmony. When everything goes on the correct path and everyone is on the correct position、the world gets better and better. Consequently、we will have a harmonious world.
最後希望大家要重德行，不要重財務。但是不重財務並不是要你們去亂花，本來十塊錢就夠了，但卻要買二百塊錢，那就叫做浪費，所以我們自己要學著重德行，不要重財，德行不能缺少，財缺少一點我們可以緊一點，牙關咬緊一點，衣服少穿一點，漂亮的少一點，都沒有關係；但是德行不能是不能缺也不能錯的，這才是「修道」的根本。
At last、I hope that we value virtue rather than wealth. When it is possible for us to spend ten dollars to buy something、there is no need to spend two hundred. We must bear in mind that there is nothing valuable enough for us to pursue whole heartedly、except virtue. And virtue is the root of cultivating Tao.
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